“Letting go is an art, a liberation, and a path to peace.” – Teachings of Thầy Minh Tâm, a venerable abbot at Bái Đính Pagoda.
Are you suffering and stuck because of a relationship that has ended? Do you find it difficult to let go of someone who once meant a lot to you? Believe that letting go is necessary for you to rediscover yourself and move forward on the path to happiness.
Understanding the Art of Letting Go
What is Letting Go?
Letting go is not about forgetting, nor is it about erasing everything that has happened. Letting go is accepting reality, it is freeing yourself from bonds, hurts, and negative emotions. In other words, letting go is a journey to liberate yourself from things that no longer belong to you.
Why Learn to Let Go?
Imagine you are holding a heavy stone in your hand; the longer you hold it, the more tired you become. Life is similar, when you cling to the past, you only make yourself suffer.
- Release Energy: Letting go of toxic relationships and negative emotions will help you release energy and focus on the positive things in life.
- Rediscover Yourself: Letting go is a journey for you to rediscover yourself, seek out the true values of life, and continue to grow.
- Open Your Heart to New Things: When you let go of the old, you will have the opportunity to welcome new things, new opportunities, and new relationships.
How to Let Go of Someone
1. Accept Reality
“Accept reality as a flower accepts the wind, as a bird accepts the sky.” – Advice from Associate Professor, Dr. Nguyen Van A, psychology expert.
The first and most important step is to accept that the relationship has ended. Don’t try to hold on, don’t cling to hopeless hopes. Face the truth, accept the pain, but also believe that you are strong enough to overcome it.
2. Forgive Yourself and Others
Forgiveness is not about forgetting, but about freeing yourself from psychological burdens. Forgive yourself for past mistakes, forgive the other person for the hurts they have caused. Remember that forgiveness is a gift you give yourself, so you can move forward.
3. Release Emotions
“Emotions are like clouds in the sky, they come and go, don’t hold on.” – Teachings of Thầy Thích Nhật Hạnh, a famous Zen master.
Allow yourself to feel emotions, whether they are joy, sadness, anger, or pain. Don’t try to suppress or hide them. Face your emotions, allow them to come and go naturally.
4. Focus on Yourself
Take time to take care of yourself, do things you love. Focus on self-development, learn new skills, pursue your passions. Live a full and meaningful life.
5. Communicate With Loved Ones
“Loved ones are a peaceful haven, a solid support for the soul.” – Confession of Ms. Lan Anh, a woman who has been through marital breakdown.
Share your feelings with people you trust, with family, with friends. Empathy and support from loved ones will help you quickly get through difficult times.
6. Practice Meditation
“Meditation is the path to peace, helping you let go of worries.” – Advice from Thầy Thích Nhất Hạnh.
Meditation helps you connect with yourself, relax your mind, and release negative emotions. Spend at least 15 minutes each day practicing meditation, and you will feel the difference.
Conclusion
Letting go is a journey, a process of learning and self-improvement. Be patient, love yourself, and believe that you will overcome all challenges.
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